Posted in Middle Child New Media Marketing by Lindsay Fultz
10 Jun 2011
If you build it, they will come. Well what happens, when you build it and they come and then you leave…? You built something from scratch. Something…that became your baby, your passion, your path…And now for one reason or another you need to separate yourself. What is the grieving process? Is there one? And how long is the hangover?
I can tell you first hand it’s not easy and there is no blue print but after having a number of heart to hearts with friends and family, that chapter of your life, is about the connections you made and experiences you’ve had. Do not let any ill feelings capture or steal that away from you. Here are 8 tips that helped me break on through.
1.) Grieve! You’re allowed to. It’s like a divorce. The fault does not lie on one party, but on both. It wasn’t a happy marriage to begin with – both parties will be happier once the signatures are on the dotted line.
2.) Get moving! Yes it’s ok to grieve but don’t just sit there and feel sorry for yourself. You know that gym membership you’ve never used because you were so tired…? Yeah, use it! Endorphins do a body good!
3.) Cut yourself off. Unfriend, unlike, un-follow and unsubscribe is a great cleanse! It may seem harsh but trust, in the end it’s for the best. Stalking is not cool or healthy and always leads to more trouble.
4.) It’s okay to say no. For the longest time you MAY have been accustomed to always saying yes to your employers. Well break that habit. It’s not harsh to say no to a former colleague that asks for help on doing tasks you used to do. If they are your friends, they will understand the situation you are in.
5.) Ask for help. You have people that care about you. You have family and a network that was formed based on transparency, trust and now friendship. They want to help you so get it all off your chest.
6.) Embrace the unknown! Open and see what’s behind doors one, two and three! See what else is out there. Live, laugh and love what pays the bills – Yes it is possible and you’ll be pleasantly surprised how much more you can accomplish when you are happy.
7.) Be thankful for all the little things life has to offer. Sounds simple but for the longest time you may not have had the luxury to enjoy the weather, sit outside at a cafe and have brunch with a friend because you were stuck in your cubicle slaving away.
8.) Network. Tap into your connections and industry contacts and events and stay involved and relevant. This is your time to shine, don’t be shy.
Trust, you built that city off rock n’roll and you’ll build another.
If you’ve gone through social media separation anxiety before what are some tips you can pay it forward and pass on to others who may be going through this situation?